We Will Always Love You Miss Abby

Last evening we all said goodbye to a wonderful baby girl that has given us so much joy. It's hard to have a quiet house again with no reason to get up in the middle of the night. We think we are going to be well prepared for empty nest syndrome and can understand a bit of what they must go through.

With no other children, we are relieved of a very heavy responsibility yet again. This time, we already know not to feel guilty for looking ahead or thinking about ourselves at this time. It is our nature to feel like we have to feel really bad and focus only on that, but that is not true.

Never the less we are still going through a grieving process that will sap our energy for some time. We hope with our experience that we can progress faster, but we just don't know.

It is very hard to give up a child you have called your own knowing that she will likely not be cared for as well. If we had any chance or hope to keep her safe we would do that, but there is nothing we could have done but delay the result by a day or two.

We miss you Abby and pray that you are taken care of.

Please pray for the mother and Abby.

Stu and Tashia

Tomorrow

We don't know why this is happening, but we do know for some reason unknown that we will be losing another child tomorrow (Wed).

Even though we have been through a similar trial, this one is more difficult as it involves people we know and our child will not be going to a better place this time. While we do know what lies ahead for us, we don't know if it will be easier or quicker to overcome. How do you say goodbye to a second infant in only 6 months? How do you see Grandparents lose their only Grandbaby again?

While we are sure that doubts will enter our mind, we are confident that we will again have a baby to take care of. It will likely not be of both our own genes or even through an adoption, but we just can't believe that God would not want us to take care of those that he calls the most important in his kingdom. Time will tell when we are ready for that.

Until then we must trudge on and if so led, will make a strong charge to change the laws that do not protect those that cannot protect themselves. How can we let a mother in an instant snuff out a human life in her womb, but yet give her weeks even months to change her mind and rip an infant from a better life and a loving family that has no say or no rights?

Don't misunderstand us, we are not in a hateful mood or even extremely angry. But we are confused and in shock and things do need to change. And if we still feel driven to do so in the near future we will do just that.

In the meantime we are placing our trust in Christ and will let you know when everything is final. And we will, as before, need your prayers and help to get through this time. Keep Abby, mother and our family in your prayers as well.

Stu, Tashia and for now Abby

No Change for now

Thanks to those that have been visiting our site. If there is a way to add a vistor tracker, we haven't found it yet, but assume many are getting the latest here.

We still have Abby, but nothing is final yet. We are keeping her while the mother takes more time to make her final decision. She still may decide to take Abby back, but we are hopeful that her mind may change. This last 5 days have been very tough as we had a time set up on Saturday to give her up and only Saturday morning did we take this new course.

Please pray for strength for both of us and pray for the mother as well, that she would make a confident decision.

Abby is still feeding about every 3hrs, eating just shy of 4 oz. every time. We think she is around 7 to 7 1/2lbs now. She is holding her head up more, is more awake and made her first vocal sound.

Thanks for your prayers,

Stu, Tashia and Abby

So far we have had Abby five weeks now. She has been home from the hospital for 3 weeks. She is healthy and doing great. We think she is about 7lbs.

This week we have been dealt a heavy blow, the mother is likely going to take Abby back, maybe in just a few days. This is so hard even without what we have gone through. We hope to keep you updated and give you more details when possible.

Right now we request your prayers and support during this time. Pray for the mother as she is going through a difficult time as well. She needs a heart change, but more than just her decision, she needs to find God. Also pray for all the friends and family involved, for comfort, strength and patience. Last, pray that Abby would be safe.

Sorry for the sad news, but this is the easiest way to tell many people.

Stu, Tashia and Abby

PS - this whole blog experience is a bit overwhelming so be patient while we learn how to spruce it up, add pictures etc.

Welcome

Do to the recent sucess of the Caring Bridge site for Anthony, we have decided to create a blog so we can easily share pictures and news, mostly of Abigail.

We hope to update this regularly as possible so continue to visit when you have time and feel to share with anyone that you wish or we have missed.

Be patient as we are new to the "blog" and hopefully it will be as user friendly as Caring Bride is.